Q&A from "Conquering Confusion: He loves her? He loves her not."

Wise Readers, Why, oh why, would a man introduce a woman to his parents—without meaning Commitment by it? If that’s not a good sign of Commitment, what is? If Commitmentphobes don’t want commitment, why don’t they just say so? And why does Time move so differently for men and women? Read on!

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Conquering Confusion: He loves her? He loves her not.

Dear Duana, I’ve been dating Cal for half a year, during which he’s introduced me to his parents and taken me on weekends with his friends. He hasn’t called me his girlfriend, hasn’t said he loves me and hasn’t asked to be exclusive, but his friends said Cal talks about me more than anyone else he’s dated. We have great sex, but there’s never a mention of the future. I can’t stand the confusion anymore…. Dear Julie, There’s a gold standard for confusion, and it’s this: inconsistent words and actions. Be warned: Confusion is your cue to open your eyes and find out what’s going on, because *something* is wrong. But what? Here’s how to tell whether he Loves You…or Loves You Not…

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How To Forgive An Affair (He Won't Admit)

Following my recent tip-off about Henry’s two-year infidelity with a colleague, he ceased contact with Anne, joined me in therapy, and apologized for endangering our marriage. But he won’t admit he had an affair, or tell me anything about it! He insists Anne was “just a good friend” he never mentioned because he didn’t want me upset. Well, I’m beyond upset. Why is the truth so hard for him to tell? And (how) can I forgive him—for my sanity and our unity and our family?

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Kiss-N-Tell? How to time telling our (Sexual & Other) Secrets to a new partner

Dear Cleo,In your letter, you want to tell your new date about your permanent but non-life-threatening STI*. You’re just leery of the timing. Many of us also have Secrets, parts of our health or history we know we’d need to tell any new partner…someday. But what day? Thanks to our survey respondents and empirical help, here are some guidelines that should stand all of us in good stead:

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Q&A from "Sex & The (Happily) Single Girl"

Friends With Benefits—why does that so often fail in practice—and why don’t honest discussions prevent the train wreck? Can condoms harm emotional attachment in a long-term relationship? Does social science affirm many religions’ sexual teachings—or not? Was virginity ‘til marriage ever the norm? Read on!

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