Entries in Affairs (29)


I is for infidelity

In the A to Z of sex, I is for Infidelity. Here, I’m weighing in on how it happens, and how recovery can occur:



Broken trust? This brand new book is here to help

Wise Readers,

Are you struggling with trusting a partner again? Or with whether to stay or go? If your partner has violated a cherished expectation—that’s broken trust. A new, research-based book is the first to take you step-by-step through whether to recover, and how, whether the issue is an affair or something else. I loved the book so much, I endorsed it:

“Love is not enough: we need trust, too. Yet all too often, partners violate that trust. Why does this happen? Can your relationship’s foundation be repaired, or is it wiser to leave? And if you stay, how can you restore your damaged trust? Regardless of the type of betrayal, authors Tim Cole and Emily Duddleston use research, examples, and activities to help couples become closer, stronger, and wiser than before. Broken Trust is indispensable—the go-to resource I’m recommending for my own clients who are working through betrayals and their inevitable but conquerable aftermath.”

When I reviewed the book prior to publication, I kept thinking how I couldn’t wait to tell everyone to get it. The wait is over. Pass it on!




Men and Women Differ In Why They Cheat, and What They Think Cheating Is

Wise Readers, 

If you follow my work, you’ve read this before: men and women who cheat not only have reasons that depend in part on gender, but in some cases the sexes don’t even agree on what cheating is.  This article summarizes that.

More to my point, if you’ve followed LoveScience for years, you know that the research of Dr. David Buss is paramount in much of our factual knowledge of why men and women cheat.  In this article, I am honored and extremely humbled to be quoted alongside my scientific hero.   







The Science of Cheating, A to Z

Wise Readers:

Why do affairs happen?  Is it different for women versus men?  What should a man or woman do after they’ve been unfaithful—and how can you affair-proof your marriage?  All this and more is at today’s podcast appearance on the Art of Manliness:




The Science Behind Why Affairs Happen

They changed my sex to male in this article, but otherwise, quoted me accurately for The Daily Mail.  What are the three big mistakes that lead to affairs?  They’re here: