Love At First Sight; or, The Truth About Lies

Dear Duana,Mick claims he fell in love with me at first sight, which he revealed a whole two weeks into our relationship. Why would a guy say he’s in love that soon? Does love at first sight really exist? It’s very awkward saying nothing when we hang up the phone and he says “I love you.” Will it scare him off that I don’t love him back (yet)? How do I handle this? Yes, Virginia, there is love at first sight. But there are lies at first sight, too. How to tell the difference?

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Q&A from "Plastic Surgery: Are you off your head?"

Wise Readers, Just how far-reaching is the beauty bias? Are men’s beauty standards even higher than Hollywood’s? Can plastic surgery work against you? Can quirky good looks work for you? And what’s the guy’s perspective? Read on!

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Plastic Surgery: Are you off your head?

Dear Duana,My measurements are 36-24-35…It’s not uncommon for male strangers to pay for the dinner I’m eating out with a friend, and I haven’t paid bus fare or opened a door in years. But my nose resembles a clown’s—round, like a rubber ball, and too large for my face….I know there is controversy about plastic surgery, but I don’t care about public debates. I just want an answer: Do you think the right nose job would help me attract Mr. Right? Grace

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The Guy's Guide To Giving Great Gifts

William was astounded. “Why,” he began, “would she leave me? I built her a $3,000 computer for Christmas, and she moved out two weeks later.” Unfortunately, discussion revealed that William gave his girlfriend a Bad Gift, here defined as “any gift that signals a lack of Commitment & Love.” And so it’s in the hopes of keeping well-meaning guys out of the Doghouse that I offer the following Four Steps To Giving Great Gifts:

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How Not To Suck At Dating (special double issue)

That huge sucking sound you heard last weekend might have been my friend’s date. Having recently lost her home to fire, she was then invited to a movie about…the inescapable and fiery End Of The World. Worse? The guy knew both the movie plot and her personal circumstances. What does science say about successful-versus-sucky dates? To put the dating world in your hands, or at least avoid imitating a Hoover, read on.

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