dealing with dating burnout

Wise Readers,

Why do so many of us burn out on dating—and what can we do instead? I hope you enjoy this video podcast with Single In Stilettos!


Six times women say yes but shouldn't

Wise Readers, if you’ve ever looked back and thought, “Why did I date them?!” this is for you!




Love Factually to be released in fifth language

Wise Readers,

Thanks to you and agent Sylvia Hayse, Love Factually will be released in its fifth language: Polish! Your love for the book means that not only is LF available globally in English, but it’s to be published in Spanish globally by Planeta; Japanese (Shasta); Vietnamese (AZ Vietnam); and now Polish (Helion). 

Thank you for your Amazon reviews, your letters to me, and your word-of-mouth. Let’s get love—factually—around the world!


Where are you? The science of finding love online (video)

Wise Readers,


Where are you? The Science of Finding Love Online

 I hope you enjoy this YouTube video of my free seminar delivered 8/26/17 at the Eugene Public Library.

—Who are you and what are your goals?
—Who uses the ‘Net for dating, and what are their results?
—What kind of sites/apps are best for you?
—How many?
—How can you write a killer online ad?
—And more!

Thank you to Elle Oloresisimo for taking and posting the video, and for coming from Canada to attend this event!




Kindness is Learnable and We Need Kindness Now

Wise Readers:

Science proves that kindness is learnable; current events show that it’s so needed now. You’ve often heard me say that without being and finding a partner who is kind and respectful—not just when things are going their way, but as a habit—love won’t last. Fortunately, there are solid, science-supported resources for becoming more kind. 

Doug Carnine’s two one-minute long videos about his books will remind you of the value of kindness. The first video, about his inspirational book Saint Badass: Personal Transcendence in Tucker Max Hell, can be found at Saint Badass is about his Buddhist mindful-kindness partnership with men convicted of murder who transform their lives and his as well. The Amazon link for this book is Read more about the book at

The second one-minute video, about the self-help/us-help book How Love Wins: The Power of Mindful Kindness, can be found at How Love Wins takes the reader through 12 steps to become more mindfully-kind, which leads to greater happiness, health, longevity, and stronger loving relationships. The Amazon link for this second book is Read more about the book at

To complement the books, his website contains a variety of resources to help you be mindfully kind to yourself, to your partner, children, friends, co-workers, community members, spiritual seekers, and social justice practitioners. He has also created blogs for his prisoner friends who write about what has happened to them since the publication of the books: