Entries in Forgiveness (9)

Wednesday
Apr022014

Forgiveness 2.0: Forgiving yourself for an affair

How do you forgive yourself? Sometimes, that’s toughest of all.

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Wednesday
Mar262014

Forgiveness 1.0: The affair they don't admit

All long relationships require forgiveness. How do people forgive their partner if the betrayal was an affair?

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Tuesday
Feb252014

Secrets & Lies: Can you have an affair and still be a good mate?

Can someone be married and be a good partner and have an affair on the side?

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Tuesday
Sep132011

How To Forgive *Yourself* (when you really screwed up/around)

Dear Duana, I’m living with horrible guilt for an affair that ended four years ago. My wife forgave me, but I still feel like scum. Please tell me how to forgive myself. And please don’t hate me. Dear Ryan,I don’t hate you—not at all. But I wonder if you do, and whether we should both hate guilt. How do you cast that burden aside and move forward with a clean heart?

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Tuesday
Aug232011

How To Forgive An Affair (He Won't Admit)

Following my recent tip-off about Henry’s two-year infidelity with a colleague, he ceased contact with Anne, joined me in therapy, and apologized for endangering our marriage. But he won’t admit he had an affair, or tell me anything about it! He insists Anne was “just a good friend” he never mentioned because he didn’t want me upset. Well, I’m beyond upset. Why is the truth so hard for him to tell? And (how) can I forgive him—for my sanity and our unity and our family?

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