The Art Of Pursuit: How and why to chase Ms. Could Be Right

Dear Duana, Lanie and I had been out a few times when I saw her out with another guy….I have never felt this way about anyone before. If she’s at all interested, I want to make this work, but I can’t tell how she feels, and I don’t want to be a stalker. I’m confused and need your direction badly. Dear Kip, Sometimes, it seems like the difference between a stalker and a boyfriend is whether the woman wants the attention. You want to respect Lanie’s wishes; but is she giving you the go ahead, or the go away?

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Q&A from "How Big A Ring?"

Wise Readers, what’s the most creative way you can dream up to solve The Ring problem(s)—problems such as dealing with other people’s reactions to the absence of a Ring, figuring out whether or not to surprise the bride-to-be with a Ring at the proposal, or dealing with one’s own feelings about what/when to buy? Read on!

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WHEN LOVE STINKS: Smell, The Pill, Marriage, and Online Dating

“I recently got off The Pill, and suddenly cannot tolerate the way my husband smells.” “I fell in love with someone online, and then when we met in person, he (not his cologne—he) smelled wrong.” Yes, scent is a deal-maker or deal-breaker for many women. So much so, “He just smells wrong” is a common marital therapy complaint from women, and smell trumps *all* other senses—including sight, sound and touch— in women’s decision to have sex with a particular guy. What’s wrong with these women—and maybe, you? As it happens, nothing…

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Q&A from "I Can't Make You Love Me...Or Can I?"

Wise Readers, Is love a choice~but only for women? Why are 100% of the ‘how can I make [name] love me’ letters from women? Should you marry someone who loves you more than you love them? And how can men simultaneously love longest…but get re-involved quickest? Read on!

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I Can't Make You Love Me...Or Can I?

Dear Duana, Daniel and I are the same in just about everything, with one exception: I love him and want to marry him, and Daniel hasn’t made up his mind. We’ve been friends for a decade, and eight years ago he suffered heartbreak when his then-girlfriend dumped him to marry someone else…[He’s said he can never get over her and can’t love anyone else.] How can I make this into a lasting relationship, make him see we are perfect for each other, and get Daniel to reciprocate my love?

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