WHEN LOVE STINKS: Smell, The Pill, Marriage, and Online Dating

“I recently got off The Pill, and suddenly cannot tolerate the way my husband smells.” “I fell in love with someone online, and then when we met in person, he (not his cologne—he) smelled wrong.” Yes, scent is a deal-maker or deal-breaker for many women. So much so, “He just smells wrong” is a common marital therapy complaint from women, and smell trumps *all* other senses—including sight, sound and touch— in women’s decision to have sex with a particular guy. What’s wrong with these women—and maybe, you? As it happens, nothing…

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Never Belittle A Penis (Plus: Clitoris Q&A)

Dear Duana, My fear of not being able to satisfy my wife is causing problems with my erections. I am in my mid-forties and have been with my wife for 16 years now. Very early on in the relationship I read something in a journal of hers I wish I could wipe from my memory banks regarding my penis size.

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Meet The Clitoris: Or, how to stop worrying and start loving

Wise Readers, men bombard me with letters that essentially say, “My size is [insert normal dimensions here], and I am scared I cannot satisfy [my wife/lover/anyone, ever].” The underlying questions are always the same: Can I satisfy a woman? Am I Enough? Having looked at these questions from every angle, I can give you a confident answer. But first you need to shift the focus from your sex organs to hers…

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Q&A from "The How To Say No Primer"

Wise Readers, Should sixth-graders even be allowed to attend dances? Won’t it lead to…sex? What are the risk factors for early sex, anyway—and what can you do to prevent that at your house? Does the community have to go along, or can you go it alone? Read on!

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Bullcrit: Fifty Shades Of Gr, um...Evolutionary Psychology

Dear Duana, I’d like to hear you discuss a current oddity. Why has the book Fifty Shades of Grey reached such a crest of popularity? It’s badly written, the characters—such as they are—are unsympathetic, and the plot pushes women into a role we’ve spent centuries changing. The heroine is clueless, a willing victim to a hero who is cruel, scarred and without a single redeeming virtue. Yet the female readers of this mishmash are wild about it and have made it an ongoing best seller. I’d like your opinion on why that has happened and if the book’s popularity does say something about the women of today.

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