Q&A from "Why Do Women Love Jerks?"

Wise Readers, can you learn to un-love Jerks—or at least to become open to Nice Guys? Do women outgrow Jerky charms? Why don’t young people know how to treat a partner? Is America becoming a post-marriage society—and what is that, anyway? Read on!

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Q&A from “Vibrator Dependence"

Wise Readers: Men chimed in from last week’s vibe column: Is there a certain-size vibrator that can make up for a small penis? Is there a wattage that will desensitize the clitoris and/or create vibrator dependence? What about a frequency of vibrator use? Do older women make better lovers—or at least tell their partners more about what turns them on? Read on!

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Vibrator Dependence: Can using a vibrator make it harder to orgasm with a real partner?

Dear Duana, I’ve been single for a few months, and my vibrator and I have gotten rather close. I’m starting to worry I won’t know how to respond to a flesh-and-blood guy. Is there such a thing as vibrator dependence? If so, how do I deal with it? Erica Dear Erica, I’ll admit it, when I first read your letter, I thought: How close? Do you call out Oh My Vibrator! at crucial moments? Is one of its designated speeds Who Needs A Man? And most ominous of all: Have you chipped a tooth? Seriously, let’s get a grip on the issue.

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Q&A from "ATTACHMENT STYLES"

Wise Readers, Finding someone just like you is usually a good bet for a great match. But when should you avoid picking a mate with your same attachment style? What styles tend to wind up (happily) together? What style partner should you pick if you yourself are Insecurely attached? And how can you change your sweetie’s style? Read on!

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ATTACHMENT STYLES: Overcoming Fear, Embracing Intimacy~At Last

Dear Duana,I was raised by a perfectionist mother and a loving father who traveled a great deal. Our extended family was thousands of miles away…I learned that if you want something done right, do it yourself…My ex-husband often scared me because it felt like he wanted to merge completely with me. I prefer to have some separateness. My current boyfriend complains that I don’t trust him enough to let him take care of me. How do I learn this skill that affects my life so much?

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