Wednesday
Jan062010

Solving Your Unsolvable Problems: What happy couples know

Wise Readers, It’s a fact: For any given couple,* happy or not*, 69% of our troubles will never go away. Yet behind that depressing news is a remarkably liberating implication: You don’t have to solve your problems to be happy…

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Tuesday
Dec222009

Q&A from “WHEN OPPOSITES ATTRACT: Happily or Crabbily Ever After?”  

Wise Readers, If opposites attract, why is similarity so much easier? And what can be done to convince your head *and* heart that his/her personality isn’t…personal? How accurate are we at discerning our own personality? Would others know our type? What about introverts with extroverts, or worriers with calm people—how does that work? And…what if your Opposite is just plain mean and disrespectful to you? Read on! Cheers, Duana

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Wednesday
Dec162009

WHEN OPPOSITES ATTRACT: Happily or Crabbily Ever After?  

Dear Duana,I love my husband, but I’m demonstrative and affectionate and affirming, and Sean…isn’t. Is there any research about opposites attracting, or whether complementary personalities can cause more problems than they solve? Dear Nina, Sounds like you’ve got a classic Gap going on—where one person prefers soul-searching intimacy, and the other prefers that when he said he loves you (at your wedding), that should stand for the Remainder Of Time. Common in male-female relationships, I suspect the Gap is often based in a specific personality pairing you and Sean may have…

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Wednesday
Dec092009

The Fisher Personality Test: Do Opposites Attract? 

Wise Readers, In response to your many queries, we’ll soon be addressing whether and when *opposites* might attract…and whether they can remain together happily as a complementary pair where each completes the other—or whether the dishes suffer over-much in a union where there’s more friction than function. Which means it’s time to find out what your personality type is—and whether you are now, or have ever been with, someone whose personality differs substantively from your own…

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Monday
Dec072009

Q&A from "SETTLING 101: Traits For A Mate"

Wise Readers, Why is starting with love beginning backwards—and what can making a Traits For A Mate List do for you? What if you know what your Standards are, but you’re having a tough time sticking to them? What (incorrect) cultural messages encourage us to Settle for matches that won’t work? What happened to Readers who stuck by their standards in the past—and those who didn’t? Why do people resist making The List? And how detailed should it be? What about complementary traits—don’t opposites attract, too? Read on! Cheers, Duana

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