Q&A from "ATTACHMENT STYLES"

Wise Readers, Finding someone just like you is usually a good bet for a great match. But when should you avoid picking a mate with your same attachment style? What styles tend to wind up (happily) together? What style partner should you pick if you yourself are Insecurely attached? And how can you change your sweetie’s style? Read on!

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ATTACHMENT STYLES: Overcoming Fear, Embracing Intimacy~At Last

Dear Duana,I was raised by a perfectionist mother and a loving father who traveled a great deal. Our extended family was thousands of miles away…I learned that if you want something done right, do it yourself…My ex-husband often scared me because it felt like he wanted to merge completely with me. I prefer to have some separateness. My current boyfriend complains that I don’t trust him enough to let him take care of me. How do I learn this skill that affects my life so much?

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Q&A from "Long Distance Relationships"

Wise Readers, Aren’t Viv and Clark too young to have a solid marriage anyway? If you’re in a LDR, how can you max your chances for it to work out? Why is sacrifice a dirty word? And what are The 4 Types of people who initiate a relationship that’s long distance from the start? Read on!

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Folk Wisdom: How do you feel about getting close to others?

Wise Readers, This week and next, I’m asking you to participate in a survey that will form the basis for an upcoming LoveScience article about people’s feelings towards getting emotionally close and interdependent with others. The questionnaire is just 6 items long and can be found at this link: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/DDHTB6Y

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Long Distance Relationships: The good, the bad, the frequent flyer miles

Dear Duana, I was the victim of abuse as a child, and now I’m engaged to the only man I’ve ever really trusted. The best colleges for our respective fields are a six-hour drive apart….they say absence makes the heart grow fonder and if it’s meant to be, it’ll work out however great the distance. What do you think? Dear Viv, Absence does make the heart grow fonder~from one Friday night to the next, early in courtship. But for most couples most of the time, when a move apart is in the offing once the decision to be together has been made, another adage holds sway: out of sight, out of mind. And even when LDR’s succeed they often fail. Here’s why, and what to do about it.

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