Momma's Boys: The good, bad, and ugly of loving a man who adores his mother

Dear Duana, What do you know about the man whose controlling mother offers approval only when he makes Mom #1….the man who lets his mother openly complain about his wife, tells Mom everything, and then takes Mom’s contrary advice at the expense of his wife’s input on all of it—money, career, parenting? How does he wean himself from her approval? And what happens if he doesn’t?

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Q&A from "Gay or straight, what's the difference?"

Wise Readers, Why do gay and lesbian couples fight more fairly than straights? Why do gay men usually stay together longer than lesbian women, and what can everyone else learn from that? How do fairy tales hurt the straight people? What’s happening with global attitudes towards homosexuality? And really, is sexual orientation a choice at any point in life? Read on!

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Gay or Straight, what's the difference?

Dear Duana,I’ve been happily partnered with Michael for the past 17 years. Straights who know us are surprised by how long we’ve been together, or they want to know the secrets to our success. I’m not sure I know what we’re doing differently, if anything. Are there really differences between gay and straight long-term relationships? Dear Steven,Congratulations! As we’ll see, I’m not the only straight person who could learn a thing or two from you and your partner….

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Puppy Love: Reflections on a Good Dog

Wise Readers, Our beloved dog Liberty crossed The Bridge yesterday. And this letter is about love—dog love. Some would say it’s “just” dog love. But “just” dog love is remarkably life-affirming, and research proves it. Dog love is special because it is unconditional, constant, and uncomplicated. Dogs don’t love us if. They love us, period. So this letter today is for Liberty and all dogs. And if you have been owned by a dog, it’s for you.

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Lonely? Standards too high? Q&A from "How Not To Settle"

Wise Readers, When to hold ‘em, when to fold ‘em? During dating, that can become The Question. Why is starting with love beginning backwards—and what can making a Traits For A Mate List do for you? What happened to Readers who stuck by their standards in the past—and those who didn’t? What if you know what your Standards are, but you’re having a tough time sticking to them? Why do people resist making The List? And how detailed should it be? What about complementary traits—don’t opposites attract, too? Read on!

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