Q&A from “eHarmony: Using the Friends & Family plan to find love online”

Wise Readers, If you have to resort to the Internet to find a mate, isn’t that a clue that You’re Not Ready? What are the pitfalls and pleasures of online romance? If you don’t even have time to find a mate, do you have time to…have one? What’s a prefrontal cortex, and why do we need one to find True Love? And what’s up with the studies where arranged marriages are happier than marriages for love? Read on!

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eHarmony: Using the Friends & Family Plan to find love online

Dear Duana, My brother Fred’s alcoholic ex abandoned him and his sons three years ago. Now, he’d like to find The One, but obviously he won’t look in bars, and he lacks time to sort through endless profiles. So I suggested letting me screen women’s profiles online, and then babysitting while he meets the best of the best in person. ??? Dear Betsy, Matchmaking is a growth industry, and using the Friends & Family Plan may be mate shopping’s Safe(er)Way, compared to cultural Do It Yourself norms. Here’s how—where—and why…

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Q&A from “Men As Success Objects”, “Women As Sex Objects”

Wise Readers, Are men—not just women—also seeking a walking wallet? Are they really that adamant about youth-seeking? What options might women have for maintaining Youth & Beauty once the youth part is gone? And does planning for a life alone mean that you’ll really be alone? Read on!

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Men as Success Objects: Or, why a man’s job is to have a (good) job

Dear Duana, I’m back with my former boyfriend, but an issue from our break-up remains: He works for his mom and does not seemed inspired to do more. Will this always bother me? Dear Janie, ITE (In This Economy), there are plenty of folks who are un- or under-employed through no fault of their own, despite strident efforts. But there’s no sugar-coating this: Male lack of ambition is a huge, universal and global female turn-off. Why that is so, and whether it has to ruin your relationship with Dave, are separate issues…

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Q&A for "When Love Stinks"

Wise Readers, Refusing or seeking a mate because of smell: It’s normal for women. But readers were left with questions: Do people with specific genetic profiles choose specific kinds of colognes? Why do men fall in love using their eyes—women, their noses? What if someone rich, powerful and good-looking stinks—can women overlook (oversmell?) that? And what role do factors like anti-depressants, age, diet and sexual orientation play in smell and sexual attraction? Read on! Cheers, Duana

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