Dating The Not-Quite-Divorced

Dear Duana,I’ve gotten involved with three women I met online in the last year, only to find they were all still married. I had asked each of them whether their divorce was final before meeting in person, and they all said yes! Do I need to see finalized legal papers before I can meet someone for coffee? Dan Dear Duana,I’m a single mom, and I’ve been set up with another single parent who is ‘not quite divorced’. Do you think he’s on the rebound? Should I suggest he contact me when the divorce is final? Should I have one coffee date and see what I think? Cindy

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Q&A from "Love At First Sight, Or The Truth About Lies"

Is love at first sight really *hindsight*—thinking we must have loved our beloved all along? Do other mammals fall in love at first sight? And what’s the timeframe for Trusting that our lover isn’t a liar? Read on!

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Love At First Sight; or, The Truth About Lies

Dear Duana,Mick claims he fell in love with me at first sight, which he revealed a whole two weeks into our relationship. Why would a guy say he’s in love that soon? Does love at first sight really exist? It’s very awkward saying nothing when we hang up the phone and he says “I love you.” Will it scare him off that I don’t love him back (yet)? How do I handle this? Yes, Virginia, there is love at first sight. But there are lies at first sight, too. How to tell the difference?

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Q&A from "Plastic Surgery: Are you off your head?"

Wise Readers, Just how far-reaching is the beauty bias? Are men’s beauty standards even higher than Hollywood’s? Can plastic surgery work against you? Can quirky good looks work for you? And what’s the guy’s perspective? Read on!

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Plastic Surgery: Are you off your head?

Dear Duana,My measurements are 36-24-35…It’s not uncommon for male strangers to pay for the dinner I’m eating out with a friend, and I haven’t paid bus fare or opened a door in years. But my nose resembles a clown’s—round, like a rubber ball, and too large for my face….I know there is controversy about plastic surgery, but I don’t care about public debates. I just want an answer: Do you think the right nose job would help me attract Mr. Right? Grace

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