Passionate Kisses: Too much to ask?

Dear Duana,Meg and I have been married 17 years, but we’ve never had a spark when we’ve kissed—even from day one. Does the lack of passion in our kissing mean anything? Or should it be enough to have values and interests in common? Dear Bart, Your questions remind me of “Passionate Kisses” song-writer Lucinda Williams’ lyric: “Is it too much to ask?” Absolutely not—yet you aren’t feeling it, and say you never did. Here’s why I don’t believe it, and what you can do to put some Zip in your Doo Dah…

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Comments from “Why Not To Look Up That Old Flame On Facebook; Or, How To Wreck A Perfectly Good Marriage”

Although a recent Time magazine column made it sound as if friending an old flame on Facebook was just as likely to produce boredom as passion, you and I now know otherwise. Do all old flames represent a threat—or is there a profile for dangerous liaisons? How do married folks handle trust in an e-dominated world? What’s the divorce rate of reunited lost lovers who marry one another? Does jealousy serve any good purpose? How can you find a trustworthy mate—and affair-proof your own relationship? Do affairs “just happen”—or are they usually planned? And if you’re already in a quandary with a Lost Lover, where can you turn for help? Read on!

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Folk Wisdom: Passionate Kisses

Wise Readers, Although passionate kissing is practiced in 9/10ths of world cultures, research only considers the views of the very young and/or unmarried.  Partnered or formerly partnered adults and those over age 25 are rarely asked their opinions.  So, here’s your chance!  Please pucker up and Click Here to answer 8 questions about Passionate Kisses for a future Love Science column.  (With thanks to an inquisitive Love Science reader for help in launching this idea and creating the survey.)   XOX, Duana

Comments from "When Men Wait For Sex"

As of today, I’ll be sending you the comments section from the most recent highly-commented-on post from Love Science on the off-weeks when an original Love Science column is not posted. This way, you won’t miss a thing—-and you *will* get what amount to follow-up Love Science articles. Because as you’ll see, readers and I continue the discussion together from a science-based point of view that keeps in mind their, and perhaps your, personal concerns. And now: Reader comments from “When Men Wait For Sex”…

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When Men Wait For Sex: Dumb like a fox

Dear Duana, I’ve had a lot of luck with women, sexually speaking. But I’ve also gotten bored and restless pretty fast afterwards. I’d like to find something long-term with the right woman, and I’m considering waiting to put on the moves. Everything in my body and half my brain says I’m crazy to even think it. Am I the only guy with this issue? And is waiting for sex ever smart for a man? Dear Kyle: Yes, I hear the voices, too—The Genes Of Your Ancestors are screaming your insanity for putting off ‘til tomorrow what and whom you could be doing today. But you’re not crazy. And what you’re suggesting is dumb like a fox…

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