Why More People Are Dating At Age 50-Plus

Did you know? Increasingly, people are dating at age 50+. (In fact, I’ve begun writing Love Factually at Midlife and Beyond for just this reason!) 

Why so many single folks post-50? Gray divorce and widowhood. 

Over a third of the people who divorce in the USA now are over age 50. It’s the fastest-growing group of divorced folks in our country. 

And on average, married women are widowed at age 59—and half of those will outlive their spouse by 15-30 years!!! This being an average, this means some widows are much younger than 59, with more single years ahead. 

Most adjust and remain single; many prefer it. And that’s a perfect solution if singlehood is the goal! 

But for the rest: *That’s a lot of single years.* No wonder that although my clients range from their 20s to 70s, most are in their 50s and 60s!

So: 

If you or someone you know is a relationship person; 

if you or they know you’re meant to be partnered; 

if you or they are wondering about the challenges of repartnering after losses like these, 

this podcast episode is for you! 

And that’s why I’m thrilled to be the guest on this brand-new episode in Tendrils of Grief, hosted by Susan Ways, who found herself unexpectedly widowed in her early 50s. 

Tune into the FULL episode on Spotify: https://spotify.link/ZLIeOJsn0Cb

 
I would love to hear how this episode impacted you. Please let me know your top takeaways. Enjoy!

Sources of stats: US Census Bureau; Journals of Gerontology; Pew

Want more love in your life? Whether you’re single, partnered, or questioning anything about relationships, get coaching with Dr. Duana Welch:

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Who Fights The Fairest Of Them All?

Wise Readers,

Are lesbian and gay relationships different from heterosexuals’ relationships?

Dr. Bob Levenson and Dr. John Gottman’s 12-year study shows that these relationships are *mostly* the same.

But when they aren’t, the differences show that straight couples can learn from gay and lesbian couples: 

*”Gay/lesbian couples are more upbeat in the face of conflict. Compared to straight couples, gay and lesbian couples use more affection and humor when they bring up a disagreement, and partners are more positive in how they receive it. Gay and lesbian couples are also more likely to remain positive after a disagreement. “When it comes to emotions, we think these couples may operate with very different principles than straight couples. Straight couples may have a lot to learn from gay and lesbian relationships,” explains Gottman.”

*”Gay/lesbian couples use fewer controlling, hostile emotional tactics. Gottman and Levenson also discovered that gay and lesbian partners display less belligerence, domineering, and fear with each other than straight couples do. “The difference on these ‘control’ related emotions suggests that fairness and power-sharing between the partners is more important and more common in gay and lesbian relationships than in straight ones,” Gottman explained.”

*”In a fight, gay and lesbian couples take it less personally. In straight couples, it is easier to hurt a partner with a negative comment than to make one’s partner feel good with a positive comment. This appears to be reversed in gay and lesbian couples. Gay and lesbian partners’ positive comments have more impact on feeling good, while their negative comments are less likely to produce hurt feelings. “This trend suggests that gay and lesbian partners have a tendency to accept some degree of negativity without taking it personally,” observes Gottman.”

*”Unhappy gay and lesbian couples tend to show low levels of “physiological arousal.” This is just the reverse for straight couples. For straights, physiological arousal signifies ongoing aggravation. The ongoing aroused state—including elevated heart rate, sweaty palms, and jitteriness—means partners have trouble calming down in the face of conflict. For gay and lesbian couples this lower level of arousal shows that they are able to soothe one another.”

Article source: 

https://www.gottman.com/about/research/same-sex-couples/

The original research article: 

https://www.johngottman.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Observing-Gay-Lesbian-and-heterosexual-Couples-Relationships-Mathematical-modeling-of-conflict-interactions.pdf

Want more love in your life? Whether you’re single, partnered, or questioning anything about relationships, get science-based coaching with Dr. Duana Welch:

 http://www.lovesciencemedia.com/consult/

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Meet The Love Scientist In New York This October 23

Do you love Dr. Duana Welch’s Love Factually books? Have you listened to her on podcasts and wondered where you can meet her and ask all your dating-and-relating questions in a (very rare) in-person appearance? 

If so, you don’t want to miss the “All The Single Ladies” Singles Summit in New York City this October 23! 

For the first time in over five years, the original science-based dating coach and author is appearing in-person for a live Q&A, plus four break-out sessions! 

You’ll get lots of time to learn all things Love Factually—vastly enhancing your dating-and-relating! 

You’ll also meet: 

*matchmaker Bonnie Winston 

*online dating expert Michelle Jacoby 

*sex therapist Sari Cooper

*stylists Amanda Sanders and Barbara Warren 

~All brought to you by Wise & Wonderful Women’s founder, our host and moderator Ann Cutbill Lenane! 

Start-to-finish dating guidance is here! Save the date!

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Calling All People Pleasers

Are You A People-Pleaser? 

Sometimes that’s a good thing. Often, it’s only good for others—not you. 

If you or someone you know has said Yes when No would’ve served you better, this podcast episode is for you!

Today, I’m delighted to be a repeat guest with host Teresha Young on REAL-ationship Talk: The Podcast: Breaking Free from People Pleasing (EP27)

In this ‘Breaking Free from People Pleasing’ episode, we speak about:
 
* Breaking free from the exhausting cycle of people pleasing: Spot the signs and behaviors holding you back!
 
* Unveiling why you constantly seek validation and approval from others.
 
* The hidden costs of people pleasing.
 
* The one powerful people-pleasing question that your 5-year-old self can provide clarity on, instantly!
 
* A nightly practice that every couple can engage in that will boost self-confidence.
 
And so much more!

Tune into the FULL episode via the links below:
 
Spotify: https://lnkd.in/enn3A2sT
 
Apple Podcasts: https://lnkd.in/ewQKC6-g
 
YouTube: https://lnkd.in/eq95Wihp
 
I would love to hear how this episode impacted you. Please let me know your top takeaways. Enjoy!

Want more love in your life? Whether you’re single, partnered, or questioning anything about relationships, get coaching with Dr. Duana Welch:

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How To Date Without Burnout

Burned Out On Dating? 

After a while, almost nobody likes dating. It takes too much work, too much time, and is filled with too much disappointment.

Or is it?

In this podcast episode I’m on with host Dr. Mari Kovanen, we dive into dating burnout—and how you can avoid it!

If any of the following points apply to you, then I strongly encourage you to listen! 

* Dating burnout and how to overcome it

* Adjusting your mindset to dating and why it’s important

* Finding a dating strategy that works and stops wasting time

* How we should dedicate time and manage our dating experiences

* Common mistakes in dating

…and so MUCH MORE!

Trust me when I say that you WON’T want to miss this one!

We share practical advice that you can actually put into practice! 

Tune in and start implementing these dating tips today!

The link is here ➡️ https://lnkd.in/eX-yxKMm

Or if you’d prefer to watch it online go to the YouTube episode here https://lnkd.in/eHn7YxvS

Don’t forget to give it a rating if you’re listening on Spotify or Apple!

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