Folk Wisdom: What To Do When She’s Not (Ever) In The Mood?

Dear Duana, I have no sexual desire—none. It’s not that I find my husband unattractive; it’s more that the idea of sex with anyone at all is no more appealing than mopping or vacuuming. Do you have any ideas or suggestions about how (or if) I can want to want sex more? Dear Emma, Low desire is the #1 issue women express about their own sexuality—which means science has definitely scoped the problem. But before we cover what Science has to say on the matter, let’s ask our Wise Readers: What do you think could help Emma to awaken her sexual desire? Please take the survey linked here and give your advice for next week’s article. Cheers, Duana

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How To Use The New Search & Tags Features At Love Science

Wise Readers, Romania, Switzerland, Tobago, Canada, Australia, France, Pakistan, Philippines, UK, India, Latvia, Russia, Ireland, Sweden, Finland, Portugal, USA, South Africa, Malaysia, Slovenia, Mexico, Brazil, Germany, Hong Kong, Guyana, Netherlands, Japan, Greece, and Gabon: These are the countries you visited from just last week. And I cannot thank you enough for finding, forwarding, and participating in research-based relationship advice for everyone. But have you ever wanted to find the exact Love Science topic or article you wanted, exactly when you wanted it? Until now, the site just wasn’t very user-friendly that way. As of today, as a small thanks from me—I hope you will consider that problem solved.

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Q&A for "Save Our Sexlife (DIY sex therapy when your guy has ED he won't treat)"

Wise Readers, Going Stealth to treat a lover’s ED (when he won’t do it himself) spawned many personal revelations and quite the discussion. What are the many —sometime surprising— causes ED? If it’s this common, should we even call it “erectile *disorder*”? And can you screw up recovery by rushing the process? Read on!

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SOS: Save Our Sexlife (Or, Do-It-Yourself sex therapy when your man has erectile disorder he won't treat)

Dear Duana, for two years, Erik’s had erectile dysfunction he won’t discuss or treat. Eric says is he’s “fine” with how things are. I think it’s closer to truth to say he’s anxious and would rather shut down sexually than be crushed by trying something that doesn’t work. Is there a way to resume sex of *some* sort with the man I love and married?! Dear Cassandra,I hear your frustration, but I’m not a sex therapist. I could claim to be—in most of the USA, *anyone* can. Ye olde local psychological association can often direct you to someone reputable, but even then, therapy involves something Erik’s avoiding: talking. So you might have to treat Erik’s ED* under-the-radar, and here’s how:

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Q&A for "Absence & Illness: Making the heart grow fonder?"

Wise Readers, This time of year is hard for many people as we recall those past, present and no longer present and compare those realities against the ideal of the holiday season. This is the first time Love Science has posted these comments from the article “Absence & Illness: Making the heart grow fonder?” I hope you find it healing, and I’ll return next week. Cheers, Duana

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