Q&A for "Save Our Sexlife (DIY sex therapy when your guy has ED he won't treat)"

Wise Readers, Going Stealth to treat a lover’s ED (when he won’t do it himself) spawned many personal revelations and quite the discussion. What are the many —sometime surprising— causes ED? If it’s this common, should we even call it “erectile *disorder*”? And can you screw up recovery by rushing the process? Read on!

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SOS: Save Our Sexlife (Or, Do-It-Yourself sex therapy when your man has erectile disorder he won't treat)

Dear Duana, for two years, Erik’s had erectile dysfunction he won’t discuss or treat. Eric says is he’s “fine” with how things are. I think it’s closer to truth to say he’s anxious and would rather shut down sexually than be crushed by trying something that doesn’t work. Is there a way to resume sex of *some* sort with the man I love and married?! Dear Cassandra,I hear your frustration, but I’m not a sex therapist. I could claim to be—in most of the USA, *anyone* can. Ye olde local psychological association can often direct you to someone reputable, but even then, therapy involves something Erik’s avoiding: talking. So you might have to treat Erik’s ED* under-the-radar, and here’s how:

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Q&A for "Absence & Illness: Making the heart grow fonder?"

Wise Readers, This time of year is hard for many people as we recall those past, present and no longer present and compare those realities against the ideal of the holiday season. This is the first time Love Science has posted these comments from the article “Absence & Illness: Making the heart grow fonder?” I hope you find it healing, and I’ll return next week. Cheers, Duana

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Absence & Illness: Making the heart grow fonder?

Dear Duana, Doctors told me I had terminal cancer at age 22, and my boyfriend bolted….Will anyone ever be willing to look beyond my diagnosis and love me? Or will the cancer scare everyone off?

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Q&A for "The Guy's Guide To Giving Great Gifts"

Wise Readers, Last week’s column about gift-giving really hit a nerve on Ye Olde Provider/Protector turf. What if you’re a guy who hates the calendar telling you when to buy? If you received a Bad Gift, why *isn’t* it a good strategy to just focus on the positives? Under what circumstances *don’t* women care so much about Gifts? When men give grudgingly, are they truly showing a lack of willingness that can add up to neglect in a marriage? And are some women just impossible to please? Read on!

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