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Wise Readers, Are rebound relationships the rule—or the exception? Does former pain open us to love—or close us to it? And what are the best ways to meet men (normal or not)? Read on!
Dear Duana,I’m mid-60s and widowed, and I keep meeting bizarre men no matter where I look…where are the normal, available and willing men? Dear Judy, it’s important to cast a wide (Inter)net, as you’ve done, but it’s not enough to ward off Weirdness. Time, then, for some alternatives to the Alternatives you’ve found… (And young ‘uns, keep reading…there’s info for you here, too.)
Share Article Print Article Permalink tagged Dating, First Love / Young Love, Grief, Rekindling, Settling Dear Duana, While I am way past having any Secrets 18 years post-wedding, I still have to wonder if there are any guidelines for the telling process. What kind of opening do you look for? By phone, by email, in person? And what if the newly acquired knowledge induces a screaming hairy cat fit in the other person? Dear Greystoke’s Mom, as it happens, the array of acceptable telling options may surprise you…
Share Article Print Article Permalink tagged Communication, Relationship Building, Sexuality, Technology In Relationships, human sexuality Dear Cleo,In your letter, you want to tell your new date about your permanent but non-life-threatening STI*. You’re just leery of the timing. Many of us also have Secrets, parts of our health or history we know we’d need to tell any new partner…someday. But what day? Thanks to our survey respondents and empirical help, here are some guidelines that should stand all of us in good stead:
Share Article Print Article Permalink tagged Commitment, Communication, Dating, Folk Wisdom, Illness, Male Female Differences, Relationship Building, Sexuality, human sexuality Dear Duana,I’ve got a sexually transmitted disease, and I’m worried I’ll either scare the guy away by telling him, or he’ll feel I’ve kept a secret from him if I wait too long to tell. What’s the right timing? Dear Cleo, If I had a nickel for every time I got the “When do I tell my secret?” question, I’d have more than $2.35. Most of us have personal issues that are important to our sense of self as well as the development of a relationship. Yet science hasn’t fully answered your question yet, so Wise Readers, will you help by taking this brief 6-item survey? https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/S25S85V