Wednesday
Jun122013

Q&A from "Plastic Surgery: Are you off your head?"

Wise Readers, Just how far-reaching is the beauty bias? Are men’s beauty standards even higher than Hollywood’s? Can plastic surgery work against you? Can quirky good looks work for you? And what’s the guy’s perspective? Read on!

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Wednesday
Jun052013

Plastic Surgery: Are you off your head?

Dear Duana,My measurements are 36-24-35…It’s not uncommon for male strangers to pay for the dinner I’m eating out with a friend, and I haven’t paid bus fare or opened a door in years. But my nose resembles a clown’s—round, like a rubber ball, and too large for my face….I know there is controversy about plastic surgery, but I don’t care about public debates. I just want an answer: Do you think the right nose job would help me attract Mr. Right? Grace

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Wednesday
May292013

The Difference Between Punishment & Reward (Q&A from How To Train Your Mother-In-Law—or anyone else)

Wise Readers, So how is ignoring not punishment? Why does ignoring bad behavior work so well? If it’s true we’re training each other all the time, why are others continuing to annoy us? And what if you want your children to learn how to set boundaries this way—with adults? Read on!

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Wednesday
May222013

How To Train Your Mother-In-Law (and everyone else)

Dear Duana, I feel like I can’t breathe. I thought after I married her son and had a baby, my mother-in-law Cheryl and I would have more in common and could share things. It has only gotten worse. Nothing I say seems to work. I fear we’ll end up hating each other, and our dynamic is driving my stress through her roof. Help! Dear Angela, first, ask yourself what your mom-in-law has in common with rats and pigeons. And then, what the rest of us do. Because your answer is there…

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Wednesday
May152013

Stepmonsters: Setting boundaries and understanding motivations in a stepfamily (Stepmarriage Q&A)

Wise Readers, What if it’s the biodad who’s giving his kids an easier time? How can you save your marriage even if he won’t get on the same Team? Bioparents and biokids need alone-time—but why might stepdad/stepkid alone-time be dangerous? What if you know you don’t like the kid—should you get married anyway? Is there an evolved psychology behind Evil Stepmothering? How long does it take to make Steps feel like Family? And how many baggages can you carry? Read on!

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