How Not To Suck At Dating (special double issue)

That huge sucking sound you heard last weekend might have been my friend’s date. Having recently lost her home to fire, she was then invited to a movie about…the inescapable and fiery End Of The World. Worse? The guy knew both the movie plot and her personal circumstances. What does science say about successful-versus-sucky dates? To put the dating world in your hands, or at least avoid imitating a Hoover, read on.

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Folk Wisdom: Your Best & Worst Dates

Wise Readers, What’s the best date you ever had? The worst? And what made it that way? Take a moment to tell me anonymously at this : http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/FXGB657 And next week, I’ll be back with your answers, and some thoughts on Dating Greatness (And Not). Thanks much! Cheers, Duana

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Q&A from "Staying Together For The Kids?"

Wise Readers, What if Stuart and Jeffrey were Stella and Jill—would having two moms who were looking for extra-relational love be even worse for household stability than two dads doing same? Would buying houses near each other allow Stuart and Jeffrey to protect their kids’ stability while looking for love elsewhere? And when is it a good idea to get a divorce for the children’s sake? Read on!

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Staying Together For The Kids? When casual sex might trump true love

Dear Duana, Stuart and I parent well together…and that’s it. Our kids, adopted from abusive backgrounds, are doing well, but I’d like to find a way to conquer my loneliness while maintaining their stable homelife. Would an open relationship work, where we each pursue real love elsewhere but stay together for the kids? Dear Jeffrey, many might say you’ve hit on the perfect compromise~but I wish you’d just asked if casual sex would work out okay. Here’s why…

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Q&A from "Gay or Straight: What's the difference?"

Wise Readers, Why do gay men usually stay together longer than lesbian women, and what can everyone else learn from that? How do fairy tales hurt the straight people? What’s happening with global attitudes towards homosexuality? And really, is sexual orientation a choice at any point in life? Read on!

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